Embracing the In-Between: Understanding Liminal Spaces

Embracing the In-Between: Understanding Liminal Spaces

In the intricate tapestry of human experience, there exists a realm often overlooked yet profoundly influential – the liminal space. This ethereal terrain asks us to reflect on the very essence of who we are and what we know about the world. In this time of great revealing, many people question what they thought was Truth. And are learning how to navigate uncertainty in many areas of their lives. In this article, we will explore what a liminal space is, why it is so important, and ways to be okay with not knowing.

What is Liminal Space?

 If you are unfamiliar with the idea, it is a transitional space that arises on our passage through something. Usually brought on by a crisis or major life change, it is a time that forces us to be introspective and reevaluate our values, goals, beliefs, and life trajectories. Because of its destabilizing nature, it is a time often characterized by ambiguity, uncertainty and disorientation. 

A Rite of Passage

Most rites of passage are all but forgotten in these modern times. While we have retained some of them like, baptism, confirmation, or marriage. we have forgotten the value that these ceremonies and traditions once held. Helping individuals to embrace change, growth, and the pursuit of a deeper understanding of themselves and their place in the world. That passage between the acceptance of the call to change and the awakened transformation is the liminal space. 

Shedding Identities

Liminal spaces are the in-between spaces where an older version of ourselves becomes increasingly ill-fitted and yet the new version has yet to emerge. Because of the malleability of this time, it can be challenging to navigate. Part of this is because what we thought we knew no longer seems to fit and feels increasingly inauthentic. And partly because shedding old identities and stepping into new ones is, by its very nature, a destabilizing process. The ground is shifting beneath our feet and without a North Star to point towards, it can be a difficult time.

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Metamorphosis

Think of this time as the pupal stage in the metamorphosis of a caterpillar into a butterfly. A caterpillar is born with imaginal cells that remain dormant until the onset of the transformation process. Once the caterpillar starts to undergo metamorphosis, the imaginal cells begin to awaken. But if you interrupt the process mid-way, it is neither a butterfly nor a caterpillar, just a big pile of goo.

Space For The Extraordinary

Traversing this space can take a few weeks to a year or more depending on the precipitating factors and how a person deals with the unknowing. In this liminal space, we need to allow ourselves to awaken what lies dormant within us and not rush the process. What’s inside of us might not yet be fully formed, and to push ourselves to figure it out, we risk settling for the ordinary. Pushing ourselves back into the status quo or not giving ourselves enough time for discovery. Shouldn’t we give ourselves the space to make way for the extraordinary?

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Tips For Navigating Liminal Spaces

  1. Acknowledge the liminal space: Recognize and accept that you are in a period of transition and uncertainty. Surrender to it and understand that is normal to feel disoriented, anxious, or confused.
  2. Stay Curious: Instead of resisting – Embrace ambiguity. Stay open and learn to play with ideas, thoughts, and visions without needing them to be the answer. Try them on, like you would a jacket, and see how they feel on you. Do they feel expansive or contractive? How much energy do they hold? Try to resist the urge to make them concrete but rather let them float in and out without attachment. There will be a time to take action, but that isn’t this moment. 
  3. Use this time to explore new perspectives, interests, or pathways. Take a class, read a new author, and learn something new. Engage in novel activities. If you’ve never considered yourself an artist, take an art class or try your hand at writing. 
  4. Seek support and connections. Invite your friends and family with you on some of these excursions. Explore new terrain with people you love. If you feel stuck seek out the support of a therapist or support group. 
  5. Cultivate self-care. Take care of your physical, emotional, and mental health by engaging in activities that bring you joy, relaxation, or a sense of meaning.
  6. Set small goals: Think about what you want to do for the day and set out to attain that. Having small, attainable goals can bring a sense of direction and accomplishment during a time when life may seem unpredictable or uncertain. 
  7. Don’t compare yourself to an older version. You are moving toward something new. This means new habits, new mental constructs, and new ways of being. That means that things will change. Comparing yourself to how you used to do things will hamper this process and increase suffering. 
  8. Be kind to yourself. You are in the process of awakening something very special.

In the intricate dance of life, the liminal space fosters the metamorphosis of the self. It is a realm where identities are shed, and we make way for the emergence of the extraordinary. As we navigate this terrain of uncertainty and transition, let us embrace the inherent ambiguity, stay curious and be open to possibilities. And in the midst of this profound transformation, be okay with not knowing. It’s not going to last and the experience itself is part of our journey. 

Embracing Authenticity: A Guide to Speaking Your Truth

Embracing Authenticity: A Guide to Speaking Your Truth

The core of speaking your truth lies in the fifth chakra. Observing this center frequently unbalanced in my clients, I began to wonder why. Is there something unique about this time in humanity that causes our throat chakra to be out of balance? Part of it is the significant changes in our means of communication over the past two decades. What once warranted a phone call is now often summed up in a brief text or email. Does this brevity serve us well? Are we truly getting the opportunity to express our truth and have it heard with its full meaning? It is time to reclaim our voice and  learn how to speak our truth.

What Truth Isn’t

Your truth is not your opinion. An opinion is a thought or idea about something external in your environment. For example, “my boss is a jerk.” This is an opinion. Despite having evidence to support it, it isn’t your truth. Your truth involves communicating your feelings and thoughts in a vulnerable and authentic way. It is about being accountable for your experience and expressing yourself intimately and transparently. An example might be, “I feel disrespected when you single me out in meetings unnecessarily. This makes me uncomfortable, and I would like you to consider a new approach.”

Your truth is also not a reaction, and it’s not about being right either. A reaction is a knee-jerk response based on previous programming. Often, it is from this place that we attack others for sharing their opinions. When we react, it is not a present-moment expression from the core of your being. Instead, you are letting your emotions, false beliefs, and wounds lead the communication.

Beliefs and wounds can affect your ability to speak your truth. Believing “I am not good enough” might lead someone to keep their ideas, thoughts, and feelings to themselves. Thinking others won’t value what they have to say. This might feed their people-pleasing tendency. Growing up in a household where children were to be seen and not heard is another factor that can cloud our willingness to speak up for ourselves.

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Using Discernment

Some people and some situations are not worth your time or energy. It is essential to weigh your time and energy against the weight of not speaking your truth. There will be times when it is better to let things go. To determine if your truth is worth speaking, ask yourself if you will regret and rehash the moment if you walk away without saying something. Will you leave the situation feeling like a doormat? Has this situation occurred repeatedly with this person?

So it is the conversation with your boss or your sister that are worth your time and energy. Not  the cashier at the grocery store who was grumpy or the man on the street who rudely bumped into you. If those short encounters bother you, there are likely long-standing circumstances in your life where you are not speaking up and being heard. The man on the street is a symptom of a much larger challenge. Manage your energy wisely and choose your moments.

This is a great TED talk on having hard conversations. 

How to Speak Your Truth

  1. Choose the Right Medium: If it is something important that you want to say, especially something you have been harboring for a while, don’t express it via text. Your truth involves conveying both emotion and thought. Electronic communication does not effectively convey these important emotions. It can leave much up to interpretation. Your truth should be direct and honest. Consider having these conversations in person or, at the very least, over the phone.
  2. Choose the Right Time: In the middle of a heated argument is not the right time to speak your truth. Speaking your truth is not only about sharing it but feeling like it is being heard. In the middle of a stressful situation or a fight, your message is less likely to be heard by the other person. Choose a time when things are calm, everyone is well-fed, and there are no time constraints.
  3. Be Unattached to How the Truth Is Received: While the other person might hear you, that doesn’t mean it will be received well. That is their story, not yours. You have no control over how another person will respond or react to your truth. As long as your goal isn’t just to be right or impose your opinion on someone but is a vulnerable, heartfelt expression of your core, it doesn’t matter how your truth is taken. Your truth is subjective, meaning it belongs to you alone. When you are being real, know that you might get real in return.
  4. Don’t Manage the Other Person’s Emotions: Much of the truth gets stifled when you try to manage the other person’s emotions. You may sugarcoat the message or downplay your emotions in an attempt not to hurt the other person’s feelings. Speaking your truth isn’t always kind, but it should be respectful. Avoid attacking the other person for their behavior; instead, share how you feel when… If you spend too much time worrying about the other person’s feelings, you are not being true to your own.

The most important thing is to be present. Speaking your truth is a present-moment experience. Take a moment; gather your thoughts and feelings. Take a few conscious breaths and clarify what you want to communicate. Speaking your truth is an important part of your spiritual evolution. Being able to communicate and feel like you are being heard is a sign of your awakening. Remember to get clear on the emotions that underlie your thoughts. Take a breath and speak from the heart. There is freedom in this.

 

From Chaos to Calm: Understanding Spiritual Health in Uncertain Times

From Chaos to Calm: Understanding Spiritual Health in Uncertain Times

Spiritual health is a vital aspect of our overall health and well-being. And it has become increasingly important in these chaotic times. Some describe this moment as the post-truth era. Where everything we see, read, or search on the internet is up for debate. Is that image fake? Have you been embroiled in an internet fight with a bot unwittingly? It is getting difficult to know what is truth and what is illusion. In such a destabilizing time, spiritual health assists us in honing our discernment skills, gives us tools for inner peace, and helps us to focus on what is meaningful.

What is Spiritual Health?

Similarly to physical and mental health, spiritual health is key to our overall sense of fulfillment, happiness, and well-being. And just like someone would focus on diet and exercise to improve physical health. There are characteristics and aspects that one should focus on to improve their spiritual health. Although the expression is highly individualized and subjective, there are commonalities within this dimension of wellness.

Characteristics of Spiritual Health

Seeking Meaning and Purpose: Individuals with positive spiritual health are seekers of meaning and purpose. They want to contemplate the deeper questions about existence and their role in the world. And they value living a purposeful life.

Clarifying Values and Beliefs: Whether they are rooted in religion, philosophy, or a sense of interconnectedness with the universe. A person with a strong sense of spiritual health will have spent time exploring what it is that they care about. And they will understand their beliefs and how they were formed. Being willing to re-evaluate and release any that no longer serve them.

Valuing Relationships: Understanding the interconnectedness of all things is a fundamental aspect of spiritual health. Whether it is your connection to the natural world, the people in your life, or your relationship with your inner self. They value nurturing these connections and practice love, forgiveness, gratitude, and seeing from each other’s perspectives.

Learning About Spiritual Concepts: It doesn’t matter if your spirituality is seated in religion, New Age philosophy, or Paganism. What’s important is to dive deep into teachings and learn the foundational concepts. This provides a more meaningful connection and gives the person spiritual tools and techniques in alignment with their belief system.

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Self-awareness: Spiritual health often involves frequent and deep introspection. It requires the seeker to understand who they are and how they show up in the world. Paying attention to their thoughts, emotions, and actions and how they are all interconnected.

A Perspective of Interconnectedness: Understanding the interconnectedness of all things and being able to toggle between the perspectives of the individual and of the All. This means that a person can have a healthy ego AND understand that we are all one. And knows when to operate from those different perspectives.

Transcendence and Awe: Spiritual health may involve experiences that go beyond the ordinary, such as a sense of awe, wonder, or moments of transcendence that move people out of separation into a larger field of meaning and connectedness.

Seeing the Beauty: Recognizing and appreciating the beauty in the world, whether in nature, art, or human experiences, contributes to a sense of the divine. Appreciating beauty is one of the easiest routes to exploring the world energetically.

Being in Integrity: Having a healthy spiritual life asks the seeker to be authentic in their actions and words. It also means being accountable for your actions and honoring your commitments to yourself and others.

Acts of Service: Contributing positively to the well-being of others and the broader community is an important part of being a spiritually healthy person. And promotes a sense of compassion, generosity, and interconnectedness.

Engaging in Spiritual Practices: Techniques such as meditation, mindfulness, prayer, yoga, ritual, and ceremony are just a few examples of practices that connect people to Spirit and often enhance their sense of peace and self-awareness.

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Cultivating Gratitude: Gratitude is a powerful tool for enhancing spiritual health. Take time each day to reflect on the things you are thankful for, whether big or small. Gratitude not only shifts your focus from what you lack to what you have but also fosters a sense of contentment and connection to the greater good.

Taking care of your spiritual health involves connecting with your inner self, finding purpose, and fostering a sense of peace. Feeling connected to something larger than ourselves assists us in leading more meaningful lives. And allows us to explore the world from multiple perspectives. Developing these aspects of ourselves will play an important role in the future of humanity. And help us to mitigate so much of the stress and uncertainty in these tumultuous times.

 

 

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Spiritual Awakening: Exploring the Infinite Depths Within

Spiritual Awakening: Exploring the Infinite Depths Within

Amidst the chaos of the modern world, many individuals are seeking solace and a greater sense of meaning in life. Leading them to embark upon an awakening journey. Spiritual awakening is an enlightening process that transcends religious boundaries and explores the limitless depths of consciousness. But what does this really mean and what does an awakening journey look like in our day-to-day experience? This article intends to shed light on the essence and significance of spiritual awakening, guiding readers through its profound impacts, signs, and steps to navigate one’s awakening.

What is a Spiritual Awakening?

Spiritual awakening can be thought of as an awakening of consciousness, marked by a deep realization of our interconnectedness with all beings and the universe. It often occurs as a result of a profound shift in perspective usually brought on by a significant life transition (though not always). While the experience differs for each individual, there are common threads that many will experience as they engage with this continual process. It usually requires an abrupt or gradual shedding of beliefs, identity, and worldviews. Followed by a massive thirst for new knowledge and perspectives.

Signs of Spiritual Awakening

For some, this journey will unfold subtly, and for others, it will be abrupt and destructive. But there are distinct signs and experiences regardless of the onboarding speed. These signs may include a heightened sense of connection, increased perception, and sensitivity to the environment. A deeper sense of compassion and the ability and desire to see the world from another’s perspective. There is an increased awareness of one’s thoughts and emotions and a stronger desire for introspection. Other signs can manifest as synchronicities, unexplainable occurrences,  increased intuition, or wanting to consciously co-create one’s life. Additionally, individuals undergoing spiritual awakening may experience a profound shift in values and priorities, as they detach from ego-driven outcomes in pursuit of meaning, peace, and purpose.

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The Impact of Awakening

Because spiritual awakening invites us to dive into our inner world, we uncover layers of conditioning, destructive beliefs, and limiting perspectives that hold us back from living meaningful lives. This allows us to move through life with more compassion, forgiveness, and tolerance toward ourselves and others. Often fostering harmonious relationships and improved communication. As awareness expands we are capable of a greater appreciation for nature, the beauty of existence, and the impermanence of life. We also experience Oneness or the interconnectedness of all things more frequently and often see our life through this wider lens. These perspectives are necessary for a deeper level of purpose and meaning. 

Navigating the Spiritual Path

This path at times can be exciting, and awe-inspiring. But it can also be painful as old patterns, people and behaviors begin to fall out of our lives.  Cultivating mindfulness through practices such as meditation, yoga, or journaling helps create the necessary space for introspection and self-awareness. As well as helps to hone our concentrative abilities. Additionally, engaging with spiritual teachings, and books, or attending retreats can provide guidance and inspiration along the way. Finding a supportive community can help as sometimes this path can make you feel a little crazy and it is good to have the support of like-minded people who can keep you grounded. And help you process the life changes you will go through as part of this journey. Maintaining a mindset of curiosity, openness, and surrender is vital, as spiritual awakening often defies logic and requires embracing the unknown.

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Spiritual awakening is an invitation to embark upon a profound and transformative journey, unlocking the infinite depths within us. By embracing this path, we connect with our true essence, discover the interconnectedness of all existence, and find solace and purpose in an ever-changing world. Through signs, experiences, and the profound impacts it brings, spiritual awakening provides an opportunity for deep healing, personal growth, and heightened consciousness. By embarking upon this journey with curiosity, openness, and mindfulness, we forge a deeper connection with ourselves, others, and the universe. Unveiling the boundless wonders that reside within.